It has become obvious to me recently, and this may be somewhat COVID induced…but I am experiencing, that if I do not share all the details that are being asked of me…the “potential suitor” often disappears.

What do you think? Now, I ask this, referring to “prior to the meet”. Do you share your telephone number? Do you share your address? Do you share the name of the company where you work? How much information do you think is appropriate to share? And how much do you think is too much? Or do you?

We of course want to share enough information, to be sure that we possess enough common interests and enough information to be certain of our desire to set up the “chance to meet”. We’ve obviously already been attracted to or interested in, the individual, by the profile we’ve read and the pictures we’ve seen…but we do want to learn more before setting up the “in person”, right?!! So…How much is appropriate? And how much is possibly too much?

Let’s think about this…If you don’t video chat (which I am open to, through the site)…Do you really know who you are corresponding with? Then, even if you DO video chat…are they “who” they represent themselves to be? I am open to chatting on the phone as well, prior to the “meet”, but through site. I think it is nice to hear someone’s voice, and yes, even to see their face. Are we ever really sure about anything? We try to do our due diligence and be cautious and also a bit trusting of the information we are learning from our new “friend”.

For me, personally, things have changed very much since the appearance of COVID. It appears to me, through my more recent experiences, that no one is rushing to meet, and I can totally understand being apprehensive about that. Especially, in these unprecedented times. However, I don’t think that alleviates our responsibility to ourselves to be cautious.

I did have an unfortunate experience in the past, where I shared a little more information with this guy, that seemed so genuine and nice. However, like an invisible switch got thrown, and it took a very “bad turn” before “the meet”. He seriously scared me, with the messages he was sending and the things that he was saying. I took everything down and stripped my social media accounts, and went silent.

Hence, my caution.

JUST CHECKING…

What is going on with these cryptic profiles?? Where does the desire to write these undecipherable profiles come from? When did it start? Am I just noticing these profiles written with vague statements or even portions written in other languages? Is it a test for us? A test to see how much effort we will put into “figuring out” what they are saying?? You know the ones, don’t you??? Where they list some obscure book or author, composer or opera, food or location? Some random statement or unrecognizable foreign quote? What the heck? It’s not even as though they are written perhaps “charming” or “enticing” …they are just kind of…out there! Have you experienced this too? What’s going on? Do share.

Have a wonderful week. Stay safe, healthy and happy. Adrienne